What is the best way to work with oppositional defiant high school students?
The first thing to keep in mind is this 10 letter word: PREVENTION. Once an ODD student has it out for you (i.e., you’re on his/her hit list), then it is nearly impossible to re-establish a positive relationship with that child. It is helpful to understand how ODD children think when trying to come up with prevention methods. How does a student with ODD think? “Because I know how much you want me to change, I will be very stubborn about changing behaviors.” “I am equal to those in authority.” “In spite of experiencing your intended punishments and/or rewards, if I change, it will be on my time and for me.” “My greatest sense of control comes from how I make others feel.” “No one has the right to tell me what to do.” “When you punish or reward me, I feel that you are trying to control or manipulate me.” “Yes, I sometimes do the wrong thing, but it is usually your fault.” Now let’s look at the prevention methods that work best with ODD students: 1. Act, don’t dis